Showing posts with label Personal. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Personal. Show all posts

Thursday, November 24, 2011

First Thanksgiving Married

Jackie is hard at work in Nana's kitchen. I occasionally help wash dishes, chop vegitables, or reach for stuff on the top shelf. This is our first married Thanksgiving and we are spending it with my family in Manteca. Also, shes real cute in her apron.


Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Book Reflection: Deep Justice in a Broken World


Chap Clark and Kara E. Powell of the Fuller Youth Institute published a book in 2007 that, I hope, makes the pursuit of justice within the reach and understanding of every youth minister. There are solid development principals throughout this book (or so my wife tells me), but the language is simplified. The content of this book is also multi-disciplinary. The authors employ basic biblical studies, education theory, ministry experience and more. Topics explored include racial reconciliation, economic justice and very practical, useful, advice on how to mobilize youth.
The greatest strength of this book is how clear it makes it that moving toward justice with youth means more than service projects and short term mission trips. Not only do the authors call these practices into question, but they provide tangible steps toward helping youth find their own ways to right wrongs.
I also especially enjoyed the interviews in the book. At the end of every chapter, the authors ask a leader in the field a few questions regarding the topic of that chapter. Some contributors are experienced youth leaders; others are experts in development or famous church leaders. Their contributions put heart into the very practical content of the book. They also share some very moving stories.
This book, and its companion, Deep Ministry in a Shallow World, are not the most well written books about youth ministry available, but they are must reads. The conversations that can come from this content can help us to develop healthy youth ministries that shape young lives and serve the communities around us.

Book Reflection: Deep Ministry in a Shallow World


I recently read a book called Deep Ministry in a Shallow World by Chap Clark and Kara E. Powell. This book was published in 2006, but I read it recently after perusing the website of the Fuller Youth Institute. Our church has been having some exciting conversations about the youth ministry recently, and it was necessary that I do some reading on the subject.
While the writing is not great, and the design of the book is obnoxious, the content is quite valuable. For example, in the first chapter the authors explore the usual shallow solutions to the challenges faced in youth ministry. Their first observation of common shallow solutions: more of the same. The authors provide an example of the thought process that may lead to a fallacy such as this. “Small groups on Sunday’s aren’t clicking, but that’s because the students don’t know one another all that well. If they met on Tuesday nights, then we could move past pseudo-community and into real life relationships” We often decide what we need is more; more leaders, more money, more time, etc. In reality, most of us simply need to stop and listen. We need to listen to students, parents, and the Lord. In my assessment, the most valuable aspect of this book is the way it causes the reader to look into the mirror. This text also provides many practical examples of what a youth leader might be able to do in order to move into a deeper ministry.
There are two glaring omissions from this book, and they are not the weird sidebar prompts or the overuse of the infinity symbol in their diagrams (though both are glaring). First, there is little call for personal growth and deep change in the youth minister. For this subject, I would recommend a short book by Eugene Peterson (author of The Message) called Working the Angles. The other glaring omission is the call of the church, and youth ministry, to work towards justice. For this, I would recommend a book by the same authors, Chap Clark and Kara E. Powell. In 2007, they published Deep Justice in a Broken World. I will be reflecting on this book next.

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Coaching as Volunteer Development in the Church

This is the first of a series of posts I have rolling around my brain that will help me tie the work I have been doing the past couple of years with my future as a church leader. I do not have a clear picture yet of all that God will call me to, but I do have dreams of leading a church in efforts to serve the community in practical ways. The first area I would like to explore is staff development. My work in the non-profit sector and in education has helped me grow in the area of staff development and training others. This post will explore what it might be like to implement staff development strategies in the church context to train volunteers and develop emerging leaders.

Staff Development in a Church?
Staff development is a part of my job, but more than that… I see staff development having a place in the church. I know how that may sound, but not everything the church endeavors to do will be things the congregation is already qualified to do. I dream of a church where we are an integral part of the community. I envision a church not only offering a place to worship and a sense of community, but economic development, educational services and more.

I know that for most churches, these endeavors will be outside of most people’s experience. This should not deter us in pursuing all that God calls us to as a community. Usually, we can find a few people who do know how to do what God is calling us to, so we simply need to make space for them to share their experience with the rest of the congregation. That way, we can all serve in whatever God calls our church to. Effective training in all of our efforts is an important part of what the church does. The things church leaders ask of the congregation may be completely novel to them. If this is the case, leaders will want to set their church up for success. If church members don’t experience success at new outreach endeavors, they may not be willing to try the next time. Success is an important boost to morale.

In order for the church to be effective in outreach and service, it must provide church members, staff, and volunteers with adequate training. The training strategy I propose is based on a learning theory called the gradual release of responsibility. The implementation of this theory attempts to shift the responsibility for one’s own learning from the teacher to the pupil(s). In staff development, this is called coaching and it is done in the context of project based learning. A staff member is taught how to do something and then led along while they implement what they learned until they are ready to do this on their own. Before they are released, they collaborate with others on a project that helps them refine their skills while simultaneously serving the community.

A Picture of Coaching

This is an approach to teaching that is best explained with an image of a childhood cliché. Picture a father teaching his child to ride a bike. He shows them what it is like to ride a bike by giving them tricycles and training wheels. Then takes them off, holds the back of the seat and runs alongside his child. At some point he lets go. His pride is unmistakable. He slows down and watches as they ride on their own. “I’m doing it!” the child stereotypically cries. When they have the inevitable crash, Dad picks them up wipes their scrapes, kisses them, and encourages them to try again. Let this be our method for teaching. Let the father teaching his kid to ride a bike be how we equip and empower our church members. Through coaching, we get to participate in the learning of church volunteers and then look on with pride as they “get it.”

For the purposes of volunteer development in the church, the four stages of coaching are: modeling, guiding, collaboration and independence. In modeling, the leader shows the emerging leader(s) how to perform a task, strategy or skill. In guiding, the leader works with the emerging leaders to practice the skill. In collaboration, the emerging leaders create a project that helps them practice the skills they have learned. Lastly, in the independent practice stage, emerging leaders are released to serve and demonstrate their competence. During this stage, leaders observe this practice and help emerging leaders make small changes to their strategies as they go along.

Coaching in the Church
For these strategies to be effective emerging leaders must be paired with established leaders who have something to pass along. Established leaders would benefit in being trained in these teaching strategies to ensure that they are successful in sharing what they know and who they are. The job of a leader is to work themselves out of a job – replacing themselves and sharing control with emerging leaders. It should also be stated that this strategy, taken from professional staff development, is best implemented in small groups. These are not the mega church small groups of the last two decades, but a balanced combination of spiritual nurturing groups and professional learning communities. During this process skills and knowledge can be shared and deep personal growth can be reached in a community. This is not a method for helping people grow spiritually or in terms of maturity. The goal of coaching is to help develop the practical skills of volunteers in the church.

The implementation of these strategies must be “above board.” In other words, everyone involved must know that this is taking place. From the newest volunteer to the eldest leader, all are eligible to be trained in some way and all are eligible to train someone else. This is not a comment on spiritual maturity, but on professional development for lack of a better word. These strategies can be used to equip volunteers and develop interns. This will help each new endeavor be successful and it will help interns draw valuable experience from their service within the church so that they can add value to the communities God calls them to.

Interns, Apprentices, and Volunteers
I would suggest that internship be the most formal context for the implementation of coaching. I would propose that a church internship program would have specific goals and a leadership that is competent in the implementation of coaching strategies. Interns could work through a particular coursework of topics that have been deemed important for interns to learn, but as long as the number of interns is manageable, I would suggest that they set their own goals for growth based on their life goals. In contrast, apprenticeship is a personal relationship that an emerging leader might have with a pastor. Interns should work in cohorts of no more than 10 individuals. There must be room for them to collaborate and help each other grow.

Volunteer development would be a completely different category. I would suggest that coaching strategies be taught to department leaders in a 3-5 session training experience that implements the strategies (modeling them for those who will implement them). Afterward, department leaders should implement coaching strategies with those who serve in their departments. A staff member competent in coaching strategies might be required to function like a consultant. While this person may not be the best teacher when training someone to run the sound board or plan an event, they may be able to help those who are skilled in any area teach others.

Obstacles and Benefits
Each church may face some difficulties in implementing the coaching strategy for volunteer and leadership development. First, these strategies will be new to some and must be learned first. Second, it may be difficult for those who are younger to train those who are generally more experienced than themselves. While one can look to the wisdom of elders, we must collaborate with humility. Lastly, implementing a formalized training technique could stifle relationships, especially if the church is to grow numerically at the same time. It will be vital for the church to fit training into the life of the church rather than creating hierarchal or managerial relationships. This is a reason why training is best conducted in teams rather than mentor relationships. In teams we are able to foster a sense of community while avoiding leading from a position of authority. This difficultly will be possible to overcome in a church that has already developed a culture of collaboration.

It can be argued that the benefits of implementing coaching strategies in a church would outweigh the obstacles. If the church can add structure to its methods for staff and volunteer development it will be able to ensure success in whatever new endeavors they face. Success will build a sense of self-efficacy in church members. They will have confidence in their ability to represent Christ in whatever way they are able to serve the community.

I would also suggest that a formalized internship program that offers demonstrated growth and teaches new skills will attract new people to a congregation. Churches may find that a quality internship program will cause college students, youth and those pursuing a call to ministry or community development to flock to the church. An internship program can present itself as an alternative to age based suburban church programs. It is the church’s diversity and love for one another that shows Christ to the world, but this may not attract a hopeful and optimistic workforce, passionate for personal growth and societal change. The church must make a space for these people if we hope to add to the value of the cities we live in.

Goals for Implementation
I would propose several short and long term goals for any church considering implementing coaching strategies in their church’s training methods. First, a church should train its members for each upcoming event. Most events fit the larger purposes of the church and are not standalone events. A good place to start would be a training session for volunteers, the trainer walking around during the event to check for understanding and implementation of directives, and a debrief follow up to perfect strategies for next time.

My second recommendation would be to develop a basic structure for apprenticeship and internships for the coming year. If a church has several prospective interns it must create a place for them. During the first year, this would likely still be an individualized rather than formalized program, but training would be intentional.

My third recommendation would be to implement a basic training for department leaders. This would be highly encouraged for anyone who teaches or trains others. It would be mandatory for anyone who leads a department and is not yet conscious of this need.

My fourth recommendation would be to develop a formal internship program that functions like an educational program; with customizable coursework, and training sessions delivered by the most competent people the church has available in each subject. The real learning however, would not happen in the classroom, but in service.

Learning and Growth through Service
The church will learn and grow while they serve, but people will not learn and grow simply because they serve. They must be intentional in helping each other grow, not just spiritually, but in service. With training, they will be effective in their service. This will give them confidence to develop a deeper life of service instead of an act of service. Through a lifestyle of service will we see the kingdom of God and expressions of God’s redeeming grace. The divine perspective is not from above, up in heaven; it is from below, washing feet.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Employment August

This summer I had the privilege of working for THINK Together’s summer program in Santa Ana again. Despite the long commute I had a positive experience working out there last summer. Last year I was faced with an experience I called “Unemployment August.” For one month after the summer program I did not have a job until the new school year started. This was a difficult month financially, but it was a great month for Jackie and I because we got to spend a lot of time together. This year, I was not faced with the prospect of unemployment. Instead I was promoted to a full time position.
I recently became a Site Coordinator at a Middle School in Baldwin Park. The school year will start August 30th. I am spending the next month hiring my staff and getting ready. For my first month as a site coordinator I helped run a summer program in Santa Ana. I was actually assigned to be a program leader at this site, but when I was hired on for my new position I got to help run the site instead.
This was a great experience. I was paired with another LA site coordinator, Mark, and he showed me the ropes. He was a great help and we had a great staff. Here are some pictures from this summer’s program.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Engagement!


So I know I have all but ignored this blog for a while now. I’ve not just gotten lazy. I have been writing some personal projects that people will probably never see and the blog has taken a backseat. But now I have a reason to come running back to writing in a medium others can read...
We are engaged!
Jackie and I have decided to get married. We are planning on setting the date for sometime next spring. That would be March, April or May of 2011. I love this woman, and spring sounds like an eternity away, but there are some practical considerations, like location, for us to figure out before we set a date. When we do I will let everyone know. So for the next year much of what you read on my blog, if you are unfortunate enough to be following it, will be about this task of planning a wedding. Hopefully I will still have a life and write about other things. A lot has happened in the past few months that I have not bothered writing about here. I probably won’t spend the time catching you up on all that. I am too excited about the future.

Friday, October 23, 2009

"The Girl" by City and Colour



I wish I could do better by you,
'cause that's what you deserve
You sacrifice so much of your life
In order for this to work.

While I'm off chasing my own dreams
Sailing around the world
Please know that I'm yours to keep
My beautiful girl

When you cry a piece of my heart dies
Knowing that I may have been the cause
If you were to leave
Fulfill someone else's dreams
I think I might totally be lost

You don't ask for no diamond rings
No delicate string of pearls
That's why I wrote this song to sing
My beautiful girl

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Union Station with Jaclyn

On Monday Jackie and I went to Union Station in LA to take some photos. We had a great time. These are just a few. I'm going to save most of them for other projects. You might see them at some point. There are more on my facebook profile. Here are a few of my favorites:

Everyone! Come see how good looking my girlfriend is!






This one is one of me that she took. She's a better model and a better photographer.







This one is probably my favorite from the day.







This one might be a bit dramatic, but it was fun to take.
That's it for now.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Photos from the Think Together field trip to The Aquarium of the Pacific

Think Together showed some of my pictures from the field trip to the aquarium on the company blog. You can see the original post here, but I have put the slideshow here on my blog as well.




The new school year is starting and I am excited to be working in Azusa. I have a bit of senioritis in terms of college. I am simply not that excited to start another year at LPC, but I have come to love my job and I am excited about that.

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

I have this sneaking suspicion there is a God

I have been a Christian since about halfway through high school. I believe, but I have always figured that maybe I could be wrong. It doesn’t hurt to believe, and worst case scenario, I am wrong and there is no God. No big deal I guess. But God seems to be revealing himself to me.

He keeps doing stuff like providing for me. I thought I would never be able to go to college. So when I signed up for Life Pacific, I wasn’t even remotely sure how I would pay for it. After filling out all my financial aid paperwork and even getting a few scholarships I crossed my fingers. Then one day I got a letter in the mail that itemized all the aid I qualified for and everything was paid for. I got the maximum amount of financial aid, and the rest was covered by my scholarships.

Since then, he has done it again.

My grandmother sent me a check in the mail the other day. She was worried about me because I hadn’t found a summer job yet. I have since found a job, but when the check came I thought I might be able to get away with not using it. I didn’t want to use her money if I didn’t need to.

Then I wrecked my car.


I hit this piece of metal on the freeway. It seemed like it came out of nowhere. It probably fell off of a truck, but I never saw which one. So I hit it with my front driver side wheel. It bent the wheel, tore apart the tire, and bent the bumper and wheel well guard. I pulled to the side of the freeway and no one was hurt, but I thought I had seriously damaged my car. The check my grandma had sent me a few days before was for 200 dollars. Guess how much the repairs to my car cost.


197 dollars.


So I maintain this sneaking suspicion that there may be a God. I do not want to suggest that he micromanages our lives and has everything worked out. People make mistakes, tragedies happen, and God doesn’t seem to be there. I do not have an answer for that. Still, if there is really a God, I think he might care about me. I could be wrong… but maybe I am right. Maybe there is a God… and maybe he cares about me… Have you ever had similar experiences? Am I crazy? What if I am right?

Sunday, June 7, 2009

Think Together After School Programs

This is what I do. I love doing it. I am hoping I can continue to do it over the summer. If not, I will be back at it next fall.

Monday, May 25, 2009

Spiritual Gifts class at Pasadena Foursquare Church

“Why didn’t you say teaching?” Pastor Ralph asked me. I mumbled something about having considered it, but not being sure. I realized afterward that while that was true, the real reason was that it scares me.

I took a spiritual gifts class at my church this week. For those of you that are unfamiliar with the Pentecostal side of Christianity, we believe that God gives everyone spiritual gifts for the benefit of the church. He might give someone the gift of prophecy or teaching or administration. It doesn’t have to be anything hyper-spiritual or anything like that, it is just part of the way we serve each other.

Honestly though, I’m not very Pentecostal. Church history can be an embarrassing thing and Pentecostal history is embarrassingly anti-intellectual. I also tend to be uncomfortable with spirituality. It is odd because so many people in my generation claim to be “spiritual, but not religious.” For a Christian, I am neither. I am, as anyone reading this would know, a Christian, but I’m not very religious. And most days I am not very comfortable with spirituality. I am simply a very rational person. I have encountered a real God, who loves me and I want to be obedient to him. That doesn’t mean I am going to suddenly be weird.

Thankfully, my spiritual gifts aren’t particularly weird. I would not be comfortable with something like prophecy. It always sounds so hyper-spiritual. My most obvious spiritual gift is administration. I want things to be organized because I can see that that helps people serve God and minister to each other. I might also have the gift of words of wisdom. Which sounds weird, but I think I am ok with it. I am very rational, but I have learned that true wisdom comes from obedience to God. I’m still learning this.

But as we discussed what we thought our spiritual gifts might be, I left out teaching. I don’t think I did it consciously; I just didn’t bring it up. So when Pastor Ralph asked why I didn’t say it, I didn’t really know what to say. I’ve been going back and forth on this whole teaching thing for months in terms of a career move, but that’s a much bigger deal than acknowledging a gift for teaching. I think I do have the gift of teaching. I care about the why and how of everything we do, and I want to explain that to those around me. I don’t know what I am going to do about school and this whole career thing, but I think I will always teach in one way or another. Right now I just don’t feel like I know very much. I can be organized and administrative, but wisdom and teaching both feel a little scary.

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

People Watching

So I'm "reading" at Statbucks (people watching), and I see a guy walk in wearing an MIT shirt. I think to myself, "Why doesn't he just wear a tshirt that simply says smart because that's what he is advertising?" Then he turns around after ordering his drink and the back of his shirt says, "Because everyone can go to Caltech." Awesome.

His shirt is a status symbol, except he's not advertising his wealth.

Just when I think my people watching can't get any better I see someone wearing pink out of the corner of my eye. No. I see two people wearing pink. One is a young woman. She's pretty, her hair is up and perfectly in place. She has expensive looking shoes. Next to her is a woman who is looks like she is in her sixties. She is wearing the identical pink blazer. Her hair is up as well, but it is frayed and messy and her shoes are simple. There is something comical about this pair of women, who did not come in together. You can't set up these things.

I wonder if the young woman knows she just got a glimpse into her own future.

This is how I spent my evening. Observing humanity at the Starbucks in Passdena. Am I creepy? Do you do this as well? Either way, I'm begining to love living in Pasadena.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Where the Wild Things Are



I have until tomorrow to get a release from my doctor to let me go back to work. He is on vacation until Tuesday. I called his office like 8 times. Im sure it will work out.

Monday, May 4, 2009

My First Day of Physical Therapy



This might be the most sketchy looking place ever. It is in the basement of some medical building. Still, in a few months my leg might work again. That would be cool.

Actually I forgot... It is our leg now.... Lewis and I are a plural entity.

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Friday, May 1, 2009

The Front Porch



I've been fiddling with my camera all day because it is broken. As usual, I do not have the funds to get it repaired anytime soon. Fortunately it still works, the lens just sticks and the flash is broken. This evening I noticed an abandoned tricycle on my porch and streamers from some party I do not remember anyone having. I thought it was a weird scene. I might get the flash on my camera repaired and a new lens, but since the camera works it will be a while. I would love to replace it with something newer and nicer, but in the end that is more materialistic than I am used to being, and of course it would cost a bit more money than I can justify spending. Unless anyone is interested in buying a broken camera from me?